Sunday, May 07, 2006
It was a lovely spring sunday, so we walked to the valentino park near our house, I chilled out with my Economist on our picnic mat whilst Fabien did his weekly run around the park.
We promised each other we'd come back with our kid, and continue to do as many of the things we enjoy doing (subject to practical and financial constraints of course). There is no reason to stop being a couple after becoming parents. It's one of the things we're really going to be careful about. It's hard, but it's how we want to do it.
I don't think our friends will say we became any less concerned and caring friends after we became a couple. And of course, we don't stop being someone's son/daughter, brother/sister even when we got married. All our family obligations are perhaps enhanced since we got to know each other.
I guess that's when you know that you are supposed to marry someone - when he or she doesn't take you away from the human interactions that mean a lot to you, but somehow enhances them. I think we've definitely tried very hard to keep up with our seperate personhoods to avoid being too much of a "fused item" despite being married.
The real challenge will be can we keep it up after we become parents? I guess that's when we rely on YOU (our family and friends) to remind us that there is a world outside of the next diaper change.